Anonymous asked: I'm like mildly obsessed with you in the absolute least creepy way possible. Like, I'm not creepy, I promise. I just find you really interesting.
Haha, oh sweet anon it’s okay! I’m really flattered you think I’m even vaguely interesting.
(I suffer from feeling creepy towards people I find interesting too, so honestly it’s okay and thank for telling me, it made me smile loads)
isolement asked: What does it mean when you identify as queer???
Well! This will probably be a long-ish answer, but..
I’ve always known that I wasn’t straight. I don’t know when I knew, but I think you just kind of do. I never really felt like calling myself bisexual felt “right”, like..in all honesty I’ve never been hugely sexually active and in some ways I think that impacted how I identified. It’s hard to articulate, I guess, but I think it has a lot to do with societal expectations: when you’re young you’re sexually active, and if you’re not there’s something wrong with you (which is 100% bullshit, but you can’t blame yourself for these things I don’t think).
Recently, and especially through following certain blogs here as well as meeting people through tumblr - and my own queer babe friends - I’ve felt like, although queer is often more of an umbrella term, it’s right for me. Whether this changes isn’t something I can say but if it does that’s okay too - because sexuality is entirely fluid (or can be, there’s nothing wrong with rigidify within your own identity as long as it’s not forced onto other people).
Not everyone wants to define their sexuality, which is super cool and a personal choice, but I’ve always felt that I needed to - for my own sake. I need that sense of definition, belonging, you know?
So I suppose in short, when I say I’m queer I’m saying that I’m not straight, and I feel currently that my sexuality doesn’t necessarily fall into a gender-binary. I still think I have some weird internalized negativity over it (although I’m not sure from where), but I’m queer n proud.
I hope that makes some kind of sense ♥
Also publicly posting because someone might find this interesting or have wanted to ask?
I’m really tired of ableist language/notions that suggest if all you can do some days is survive the next 24 hours you’re not doing enough, less of a person, failing, not good enough or trying hard enough, etc.
Because you are. You’re doing great.
If all you did was survive today then I’m really fucking proud of you.